Ripples of Betrayal Coaching
Ripples of Betrayal Coaching
Get to know me. Learn how I have transformed my trauma experiences into clarity, confidence, and taking charge of my own life story.
Are you stuck? Do you find that talk therapy keeps you trapped in the pain? Do you feel like things are never going to get better?
While the path to transformation for every betrayed woman is different, the evidence-based stages to achieve transformation are the same. I think of this path as a clear set of building blocks that create the foundation for success. The women who achieve true transformation embraced this path, leading them to real post-betrayal growth.
My job is to find out where you are on that path, what your specific pain points are, and support you identifying how you want your life to look on the other side. And yes, the other side does exist if you have the courage to reach for it!
Coaching is very different than therapy. While your story is critical, it is not the focus of the work we do together. Instead, based on your vision of who you want to be and what you want your life to look like “post-betrayal”, we will co-create a path to get there. That is where the real work begins.
Let’s talk and see if we are a good fit!
DISCLAIMER:
Coaching is not therapy. Issues may arise where coaching may not be the appropriate support. This may result in clients being referred to a mental health professional for those aspects of their recovery, but coaching and therapy can live side-by-side when recovering from betrayal. This will be discussed in more detail prior to the outset of our work together to ensure you are provided the information to make the best decisions for your recovery, growth, and transformation.
I am the product of multi-generational family trauma. Both my grandmother and mother struggled, and as a child I inadvertently absorbed their poor coping mechanisms. My father was also an alcoholic which only added to the unstable environment in which I grew up. Experiencing a lack of relationship trust was the result.
As a young woman, motivation to help others overcome these types of issues inspired me to pursue an undergraduate degree in psychology, but instead of continuing on to graduate school, starting a family became my priority.
Life again took me in an unanticipated direction as happen-stance led me to become an executive leader of non-profit associations, a career I embraced for over 25 years. One of the greatest pleasures in that role was managing over 250 volunteers each year. Engaging volunteers for over two decades offered me both the experience and confidence to hone my skills as a coach, mentor, motivator, consultant, and advisor.
Unfortunately, I experienced several mental health crises in my adult personal life as my career unfolded. I was unaware that the multi-generational trauma I experienced as a child followed me into adulthood. I applied the poor coping mechanisms I learned in childhood to my own adult relationships. In my journey to overcome emotional pain, I sought the support of therapists, investing in myself by doing my own personal work to recover. These experiences ultimately brought me back to my original calling to be part of the helping profession.
From there things moved quickly. I retired early from association management to pursue additional post-secondary education, at first to to become a professional counsellor followed by seeking coaching certification.
It was my counselling internship experience that cemented my belief that helping people with relational trust issues was my future. During my internship I worked with groups of women impacted by infidelity. However, over time I also observed that while different therapies can absolutely be a critical component of recovering from relational trauma, there are times when people become so invested in defining themselves by this trauma that they can’t see their way out of it.
This is where my desire to explore coaching with betrayed women was born. I became inspired by the many women I worked with as they arrived at the other side with hope, strength, and a new vision of, and for, themselves. I continue to see the hugely positive impact of coaching on betrayed women, and the power it has to completely empower them.
It is so beautiful to see these women take control of their own stories, and I am here to serve that purpose in whatever way I can!
Ultimately, my group work with betrayed women cemented the vision for my coaching business. All those I worked with said I could really “see” where they were at in their betrayal trauma journey as I walked through the process with them – giving them space to take many steps backwards before moving forwards again. Seeing how brave, strong, and how possible it was for them to transform their pain into something beautiful continues to inspire me every day. It ties together everything I have learned with everything I believe…How we attach to other humans…The importance of trust in relationship…How we are in relationship impacts the relationship…Who we become because of our relationships…How attachment wounds can send us spiraling…And most importantly, how we can thrive again!
Life Skills Coaching Certificate
Rhodes Wellness College, Vancouver, BC
Diploma (Honours) in Applied Psychology and Counseling,
Specialization in Professional Counseling
Kelowna College of Professional Counselling, Kelowna, BC
Bachelor of Arts, Psychology Major
Simon Fraser University, Burnaby, BC